Baby boomers have seen a lot of change over the years, and while they’ve undoubtedly shaped the world in many ways, some of their habits just don’t fly with younger generations anymore.
It’s not about criticism but rather understanding how the world has shifted. If you’re a boomer, here are 16 things you might want to rethink doing to help foster smoother relationships with everyone else.
Constantly Complaining About Technology
Boomers have witnessed the rapid rise of technology, and many have expressed frustration with newer gadgets or social media platforms. While it’s understandable that adapting to new tech can be challenging, constantly complaining about smartphones, apps, or social media just comes across as negative.
Younger generations grew up with this tech and are used to its evolution. Instead of resisting change, try embracing it or asking for help to learn, and you might find it’s easier than you think.
Telling Younger Generations They’re Too Sensitive
It’s become common for the older generation to dismiss younger generations as “snowflakes” or overly sensitive. While it’s true that the younger generations are more vocal about mental health, equality, and social justice, telling them they’re too sensitive is not only outdated, it’s dismissive.
These issues are important, and many people are simply advocating for healthier, more respectful environments.
Using “Back in My Day” as a Conversation Starter
“Back in my day…” is a phrase that boomer generations often use to compare the present with their past. While this nostalgia might seem harmless, it can come across as judgmental or out of touch with the current reality. Younger people are creating their own experiences and aren’t necessarily interested in hearing about how things were “better” years ago.
Instead of reminiscing about the past, try focusing on the present and showing interest in what others are currently going through.
Disregarding Pronouns and Gender Identity
The conversation around gender identity and pronouns has evolved significantly in recent years, and while boomers may not have grown up with this awareness, dismissing or making fun of someone’s pronouns is disrespectful. Using the correct pronouns is a sign of respect and recognition of someone’s identity. Don’t dismiss the importance of gender inclusivity. Take the time to understand the terms and support those who are advocating for their identity and rights.
Insisting That Everyone Should Want to Own a Home
Owning a home was a major milestone for the boomer generation, but let’s face it, times have changed. With skyrocketing housing prices and student debt, younger generations often can’t afford the same dream. Many are opting for renting, traveling, or pursuing other goals instead. Instead of insisting that homeownership is the ultimate sign of success, try recognizing that success looks different for everyone now.
Assuming That Younger Generations Don’t Work Hard
Boomers sometimes claim that younger generations aren’t as hardworking as they were, especially when it comes to the work ethic. However, millennials and Gen Z work long hours, often balancing multiple jobs and side hustles.
What’s different is how younger generations value work-life balance, mental health, and purpose in their careers. Instead of making assumptions about their laziness, try understanding how their work habits and priorities are adapting to changing economic realities.
Ignoring Social Media Etiquette
Social media is a huge part of communication today, but some baby boomers struggle with the unwritten rules. Over-posting, commenting on everything, or sharing unsolicited advice online can come across as intrusive.
Younger generations value boundaries, even online, so take a moment to learn the “dos and don’ts” of social media. A little digital courtesy can go a long way.
Criticizing “Participation Trophies”
The trend of giving participation trophies to children has drawn heavy criticism from older people who believe it promotes a lack of effort or achievement. However, younger generations argue that these trophies encourage children to value participation, effort, and teamwork rather than focusing solely on winning.
Believing That Everything Is “Just Fine”
Baby boomers have a tendency to downplay issues, believing that everything is “just fine” or that people are overreacting. This mindset can make it difficult to have meaningful conversations about social or political issues that are important to younger generations.
Acknowledging and addressing these concerns, rather than dismissing them, shows empathy and a willingness to understand the changing world around us.
Telling Everyone to “Toughen Up”
When a younger person shares a personal or emotional issue, older people can often respond with phrases like “just toughen up” or “stop being so soft.” These kinds of responses can be hurtful and dismissive, especially when mental health is involved.
Try to avoid pushing people to ignore their emotions. Offer support and understanding and encourage people to talk about their feelings.
Making Fun of “Fads” and “Trends”
When boomers criticize things like avocado toast or the latest fashion trends, it often comes across as dismissive or patronizing. While it’s perfectly fine to have your own tastes and preferences, making fun of what others enjoy can feel disrespectful.
Every generation has its trends, and they’re often reflective of cultural moments or evolving values. So stop criticizing, try to show curiosity, and ask why these trends are important to younger people.
Disrespecting Vegan and Plant-Based Diets
The rise of plant-based eating isn’t just a trend, it’s a conscious choice for many younger people who care about health, the environment, and animal welfare. Jokes about vegans or eye-rolling at dietary preferences can feel disrespectful. Be careful of judging – ask questions instead. You don’t have to give up your steak, but showing curiosity and respect for someone else’s choices can go a long way.
Failing to Recognize the Need for Mental Health Care
Boomers often grew up in a time when mental health was not openly discussed, and as a result, many still carry the notion that mental health care is unnecessary or a sign of weakness. Younger generations, however, recognize that mental health is just as important as physical health. Encouraging people to seek help when needed and understanding the importance of mental well-being is essential for a more compassionate society.
Making Assumptions About Younger People’s Finances
The baby boomer generation sometimes assumes that younger generations are financially irresponsible, especially when it comes to spending money on things like dining out or entertainment.
In reality, many millennials and Gen Zers are struggling with student debt, high living costs, and stagnant wages. We should never make judgments about anyone’s financial habits, and it’s more productive to have conversations about the challenges younger generations face in managing finances.
Clinging to Outdated Political Views
Political beliefs evolve over time, but boomers sometimes hold onto outdated views that no longer align with the broader societal consensus. Younger generations tend to have more progressive views on issues such as climate change, equality, and social justice.
Boomers should be open to understanding how younger generations view the world and what they believe is important for the future.
Interrupting Conversations
And finally, a habit that annoys others is interrupting during conversations. Boomers sometimes feel the need to dominate the discussion or finish others’ sentences. This habit can make others feel dismissed or unheard, especially in group settings.
Instead, try practicing active listening, allowing others to fully express their thoughts before jumping in with your own. Listening is just as important as speaking in fostering meaningful communication.